All the secrets of the gaze of men and women - an interesting article that will allow you to check these statements while riding in transport.
Observations of psychologists show that during personal contacts the interlocutors are not able to look at each other constantly, but only no more than 60% of the total time. However, the time of eye contact can go beyond these limits in two cases: in lovers and in aggressive people. Therefore, if an unfamiliar person looks at you for a long time and intently, most often this speaks of hidden aggression.
The duration of eye contact depends on the distance between the interlocutors. The greater the distance, the longer eye contact is possible between them. Therefore, communication will be more effective if partners are sitting on opposite sides of the table - in this case, the increase in the distance between them will be compensated by the increase in the duration of eye contact.
Women look longer at those they like, and men - at those who sympathize with them. Observations show that women are more likely than men to use a direct gaze, and therefore they are less likely to perceive a gaze as a threat. On the contrary, a woman considers direct gaze to be an expression of interest and a desire to establish contact. Although not all direct views of men are perceived by women favorably, much depends on the person himself.
You should not think that a direct look is a sign of honesty and openness. A person who knows how to lie can fix his gaze in the eyes of the interlocutor, as well as control his hands, not allowing them to come close to the face. However, if the liar is not so trained, for example, a child, then the deception can be easily recognized: his hands reach out to his face, block his mouth and nose, and his eyes run to the sides.
The narrowing and dilation of the pupils does not obey consciousness, and therefore their reaction very clearly shows the partner's interest in you. Dilatation of the pupils shows an increase in interest in you, their constriction will tell about hostility. However, such phenomena must be observed in dynamics, because the size of the pupil also depends on the illumination. In the bright sun, the pupils of a person are narrow, in a dark room the pupils dilate.
The theory of neuro-linguistic programming claims that by the movement of the interlocutor's eyes, one can find out which images are in the person's mind and what he is doing at the moment: inventing or remembering.
If the partner looks up to the left or just up, then he is immersed in visual memories. Such a look can be observed in a person answering the question "what does a hundred-ruble banknote look like".
Looking upwards to the right reveals visual construction. The person tries to imagine what he has never seen. For example, try to imagine your close friend wearing an astronaut's spacesuit.
Looking to the left to the side speaks of auditory memories. For example, think about the sounds of a grand piano. If the gaze is directed to the right to the side, this is a sign of auditory construction. For example, imagine how aliens talk.
Looking down to the left is an internal conversation with oneself.
Looking downward to the right, or simply downward, gives kinesthetic representations. For example, emotional and tactile. This is where your gaze is directed when you remember your feelings from the soft warm bed in which you lay.
For left-handers, the picture is completely opposite.
The ability to easily and discreetly observe the eyes of the interlocutor, as well as analyze the results, will provide you with invaluable help both in daily conversations and in the event of an important business conversation.