Tips from Roman Abramovich (Tips from Successful People)

Roman Arkadievich Abramovich (born October 24, 1966, Saratov) - billionaire, entrepreneur, former governor of the Chukotka Autonomous Okrug. Since October 12, 2008 he has been a deputy of the Chukotka Duma.

1. Many problems come from the mind. They are not the result of any event, failure, or other people's actions. They arise from our bad mental habits. Free yourself from these 10 behaviors, and immediately get rid of the many problems caused by each of them:

2. Don't jump to conclusions. This habit can make life difficult in two ways. First, we assume we know what is going to happen, so we turn off our attention and act on that assumption. People are worthless soothsayers. Most of their assumptions are wrong, and hence their actions are also wrong. The second side of this habit is that we imagined that we can read minds, and as if we know why other people do, what they do, or what they think. Wrong again, and fundamentally wrong. It is this stupidity that destroys relationships like no other.

3. Don't be dramatic. Many hype fatal disasters out of small failures, and react accordingly. The habit of making an elephant out of a fly creates anxiety that either does not exist or is so small that there is nothing to worry about. Why do they do this? Who knows? Maybe to look and feel more important. In any case, this is as stupid as it is disastrous.

4. Don't make up rules. A huge chunk of all the musts and musts that you run around with are probably useless. All they give you is nervousness and guilt. What for? By following these imaginary rules, you clog your brain with unnecessary obstacles and childish ways. And when you try to transfer those rules to others, you turn into a frightening boring whiner or overconfident fanatic.

5. Avoid stereotypes and labels. The words you use can set you up. The language of negativity and criticism engenders the same thinking. When you try to squeeze things into certain categories, you stop seeing their real meaning, thereby limiting your thinking to absolute uselessness. Look - what's there. Don't put up labels. You will be surprised at what you see.

6. Don't be a perfectionist. Life is not only "black or white" or "all or nothing." In most cases, “enough” means just enough. If you are looking for the perfect job, you will most likely never find one. At the same time, all other works will seem worse to you than they really are. You will be looking for the perfect relationship, and you will probably spend your entire life alone. Perfectionism is a mental illness that will not let you enjoy, but will send you in search of something that does not exist every time.

7. Don't generalize. One or two failures are not a sign of permanent failure. An accidental triumph does not turn you into a genius. A single event - good or bad - or even two or three events does not always indicate a lingering trend. Generally, things are what they are and nothing more.

8. Don't take it personally. Most people, even your friends and colleagues, don't talk, think, or care about you 99% of the time. The people from your organization, or living in the neighborhood, have probably never even heard of you. Yes, in fact, and does not want to hear. The ups and downs of life, the warmth and indifference of other people have nothing to do with you personally. Faking it will only make you feel more unhappy than you need to.

9. Don't believe your emotions. How you feel is not always a true indicator of what is actually happening. Just because you feel it doesn't mean it's true. Sometimes the source of emotions can be fatigue, hunger, irritation, or just a runny nose. Whether you feel good or bad - the future will not change from this. Feelings may be true, but they are not true.

10. Don't be apathetic. Train yourself to be optimistic. If you expect bad things in life and at work, you will find them. A negative attitude is the same as looking at the world through distorting, dirty glasses. You will only notice flaws, not paying attention, or not noticing everything else. It is simply amazing how you can see what is not, if you just start looking. And of course, if you start looking for positive things, you will find them too.

11. Don't live in the past. This advice is the most important of all: forget it and move on. Most of the anger, frustration, unhappiness, and despair in this world comes from people holding onto past grievances and problems. The more you scroll through them in your mind, the larger they will seem to you, and the worse you will feel. Don't fight unhappiness. Forget and live on. Do this and thereby deprive him of the power to hurt you.